Because her stories are treasures—and they deserve to be saved.
Our moms carry lifetimes inside them—chapters filled with lessons, laughter, heartache, resilience, and love. As they get older, the chance to sit down, listen, and capture those stories becomes even more precious.
It’s not about formal interviews or complicated setups. It’s about connection. About honoring the memories that shaped her—and you.
Here’s how you can gently and lovingly capture your mom’s stories before they fade with time.
Instead of sitting down with a clipboard and a list of questions, start with a conversation.
Ask about a favorite memory, a person she loved, a place that still feels vivid to her. Let it unfold naturally.
The best stories often come out when she feels relaxed, not when she feels like she’s being “interviewed.”
Instead of:
Try:
Sometimes memories need a little nudge. Soft, open-ended prompts can help:
Think of yourself as a memory guide, not a journalist.
Record the conversation—audio or video.
Explain that it’s just so you can remember exactly how she told her stories, not to put pressure on her.
Set the scene: cozy chairs, tea or coffee, soft lighting. The goal is for it to feel like catching up, not being “on camera.”
Pro tip: You don’t have to capture everything in one sitting. Sometimes the best stories come over a few casual chats.
If she laughs—follow it.
If she pauses—give her space.
If she tears up—stay present.
Memories carry emotion, and sometimes the emotion is the real story. Let her feel whatever comes up without rushing her to the next topic.
Not every memory will be happy. That’s okay.
Hard stories—the ones about resilience, mistakes, loss—are just as important.
If she opens the door to a harder memory, be gentle. Listen without judgment. Thank her for trusting you with it.
The way she describes the kitchen she grew up in.
The name of the dog she had as a girl.
The song her mother used to sing.
These tiny details are gold. They bring her world to life in a way facts alone never can.
Capturing your mom’s stories isn’t about getting a polished narrative—it’s about preserving the pieces of her life that shaped yours.
Years from now, you’ll be so grateful you have her voice, her laughter, her wisdom tucked safely into memory.
Start with a conversation.
Follow her lead.
And remember: every story, no matter how small, is a gift.
Because her story is part of yours.
Need a little help getting started?
At Tonifo, we make it easy to thoughtfully capture your loved one’s stories—through guided video interviews that preserve their voice, their spirit, and their memories for generations to come.
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